How is your confidence?

Something crazy is happening to me right now. And in a weight loss journey, this can happen. I can't remember any time in my life where I have been more confident in myself. Yes, alot has to do with losing weight, but a lot has to do with just being happy with the person that I am. There is a clear difference in my thinking, and the way I approach the world.

I can remember in high school, I was always pretty confident, but I was a kid. I was just going about life as a teenager. I really started losing a lot of confidence after high school, because there was no more sports, and I was getting bigger. Getting in to college was a confidence booster, but my lack of female interaction really hampered my confidence. Plus, I was getting up in weight, and out of shape. Not looking like my old self when I was in high school. Towards the end of school, and the years after, my confidence was at a all time low. I did a lot of soul searching and through years of personal therapy, I feel like a new me. Still the same person...the happy go lucky, always smiling, sympathetic to other people's needs type of person that I developed through my earlier years, but a more confident man. I believe that God makes everything happen for a reason. Because going through most of my life as an overweight or obese man, you see life differently. You develop a defense mechanism to hide your insecurities. Always being nice, because you feel that deep down in side, you have nothing to offer, so you're overly nice to people, especially women. And they do sense things like that. Women are very intuitive. They can see if a man is confident or not. And my lack of women was due to my confidence. But like I said, after a lot of soul searching, my confidence came back. A lot of it had to do with overcoming my insecurities and being more happy in my own skin. Even before I started dating more than I've ever had in my life, when I became more confident, then the weight loss process was easier, and meeting more women became much easier. It's kinda hard to explain, because you would think that being more happy in my own skin, then I should of been happy with my weight at the time. But I wasn't, because I wanted to reflect a confident man, and there is a stigma with looking more fit, especially with women. Granted that no matter how you look, if you exude confidence, then you are bound to find a woman. But for men who look fit, it comes a lot easier, and that's just the cold hard truth. Plus the have a wider selection of women to weed out, and find the right one. But with that confidence and that need to lose weight, the process became easier because I was OK with being patient about the process. In the past, I wasn't patient. I wanted quick results, and if none was shown, I just gave up. But I looked at dieting different. Instead of looking at it for a period of time, I wanted to change my lifestyle, and how looked at food. Instead exercising to lose weight, I looked at it as training to be a fit human being, and do the things I love to get peace of mind. With that process, the weight started shedding off, and the confidence grew.

It is like it's night and day for me in terms of my confidence. And for you Big Dawg, it's time for you to look inside and do some soul searching. Because the mind is the first muscle to get in shape for a weight loss journey. But if you have patience, and trust the process and science of weight loss, you will lose weight. And I can't explain how great life is now sense I've started my journey. You have to experience it yourself. Because of the life I led as an insecure obese man, I have a new appreciation of life. And the lessons I learned from that life is making me a better man for the life I'm living now, and in the future. I'm still a nice guy, but I'm confident, and whatever they say about nice guy finish last is bullshit. Because again, the stigma with nice guys is that they're overly nice because they're insecure. I definitely a man that will more times than I used to speak up, and said what needs to be said, and not care what anyone thinks. And that mentality helps with meeting women, because once you get that you're not gonna impress everyone, then you quit trying, and just be yourself. Some people gonna like you...some won't. And for woman, just have the mentality of if she turns me down, then she's missing out...then you won't care, and meeting women is much more easier. I urge you, if you're ready to make a change, then do it...because it is well worth it.